Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Love Bites - Do you really wanna give him a taste of his own medicine?

"Give him a taste of his own medicine" ...? Really? 

Yesterday, I overheard a mother giving her daughter relationship "advice." Boy! Do I wish I could've saved her!!! Her boyfriend had been neglecting her and she felt like she'd been put on the back burner. This girls mother said "Well, give him a taste of his own medicine and do the same to him." I was appalled!!! What kind of crap is that?!?!

Hello people!! Don't you know that snakes are immune to their own poison? If a guy is mistreating you...and you mistreat him back... 1) Its NOT going to hurt him like it hurts you, 2) You are further poisoning yourself by doing something you don't like done to you & 3) You will further justify his actions by joining in the act.

The First of the Four Agreements is to speak impeccably! You must speak to yourself, and your partner with integrity and truth. Come from the heart and avoid sinful or manipulative comments.
~ Look inside yourself and find happiness within. Are you feeling neglected because you rely on him to entertain and satisfy you? Then tell him, sincerely, how you feel.

The 2nd Agreement is "don't take anything personally."
Are you questioning yourself? Are you second guessing your value? STOP! Remember that NOTHING others say or do is because of you. It is their own projection of their poisoned "dream" (mental state).
~Find the light within you. Know your worth. Do not attach pain or emotion to his stories, actions, or reactions. 

The 3rd Agreement states, "don't make assumptions."
Don't assume ANYTHING! clear your head and heart of everything.
~Fill yourself with light from whatever diving being you believe in. Communicate clearly what it is you are feeling, but don't give him the burden of making things better. This is ONLY up to you. You have the right to tell him, of course speaking impeccably (without sin or manipulation), how you feel and what you would like changed, and you ALSO HAVE THE RIGHT to not agree with the current relationship. It is better to be clear and walk away, then to live in a space where the energy is foggy. Fog prevents good communication, which prevents understanding, which strains love, respect, trust, and perception. 

Finally, the 4th agreement is "always do your best!"
If you always do your best in applying agreements 1-3, you will no longer second guess yourself. You will no longer resent yourself, judge yourself, or make yourself suffer. Because every time you look back on a situation, you will know you have done your best, and if the other person cannot join you on your AGREED path, then this person can separate from you.

Who knows what the future holds?

Always doing my best, <3 NeenaJay 

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

The Four Agreements - A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom: Don Miguel Ruiz

If you are looking to change your life...this is the place to start! 

This book has changed my life!
The author does a great job of giving you step by step instructions on how to break old agreements we have made with ourselves, and acknowledge and make these 4 new agreements that will lead to an overall better life.

In this book, Don Miguel Ruiz shares his knowledge of the Toltec Wisdom People.
The book has 5 chapters, totaling 150 pages.

The Four Agreements:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

On my path to personal freedom, <3 NeenaJay

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Cleanse and Energize Your Stones- Full Moon Tonight!

Tonight is a full moon! Get out all your semi precious stones (jewelry, decor, etc) and precious metals and leave them by a window sill to be cleansed and energized by the moon light. The early morning sunrise will charge the stones and expand their frequencies so they can benefit you to their full potential. 

My favorite stones:

Rose Quartz - Love

Citrine - Money

Friday, September 9, 2011



This phrase has meant more to me in the past weeks than ever in my life. 
Our society has poisoned us with many superficial beliefs about relationships. I'm not just talking about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, but family, school, work, and relationships with friends too. 

In order to maintain ANY healthy relationship, you need to have self love.

Love yourself. Search and realize what makes you happy and devote time to your SELF. Understand what makes you happy and make a promise to yourself to keep YOU happy. 

Meditate....and once you've reached a clear state of mind, be open to the the infinite light. The infinite light may be God to some, Allah to others; to me, its just the divine light. Be open to that, and allow for the light to seep into your soul and fill you with your own love. 

When you come from love n' light, all darkness, ego and negativity will weed itself out of your path. This may include drugs, bad friends, bad habits, etc. The possibilities are endless. Just stay in love...and in light with yourself.

From this SELF-LOVE stems self-respect, self-confidence, and self-value. When you are full of these positive characteristics, you can maintain happy relationships and will protect yourself from needless suffering. When you love yourself, you wont aimlessly gauge if and how much others love you. You will only accept LOVE in its highest and purest form. When you respect yourself, others will respect you. And those who dont  will veer off your path.

Come from others...and always chose the path that shines light on your heart!

Love n' light <3NeenaJay

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Neena Jay is BACK! Better than ever!

After a little time-off, I am back to bring all my readers amazing articles, personal stories, and exercises to help you improve the quality of your life!!!!

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Off I go!

love n' light, NeenaJay